How to Stop Being Such a People Pleaser - Nick Pollard (Video)
In this 2 January 2025 Modern Wisdom video, host Chris Williamson talks with Nick Pollard a coach and a speaker.
Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it’s hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence?
Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and more.
https://youtu.be/mqtdA2F-XxU
00:00 The Trap of People-Pleasing
11:24 Learning to Be Honest With Yourself
17:18 Why People-Pleasers Struggle to Find Joy
22:02 The Cost of Being a People-Pleaser
26:55 When Does Being Considerate Go Too Far?
29:34 How Men & Women People-Please
40:02 Why People Struggle to Advocate for Their Needs
55:37 First Steps to Correcting People-Pleasing
1:05:21 Biggest Misconceptions About Boundaries
1:18:14 Maintaining the Boundaries You Set
1:22:43 How Sensitive People Can Be More Assertive
1:31:09 The Guilt of Choosing Yourself Over Others
1:43:51 The Role of Triggers in People-Pleasing
1:47:35 When to Give Up on Someone
1:50:37 Highly Successful People-Pleasers
2:01:38 Impactful Books for People-Pleasers
2:05:15 Where to Find Nick
