I Can Spot a Liar in 4 Seconds" – The Dating Checklist That Will Unmask the Psychopath in Your Life (Video)

In this 12 March 2025 video, host Lisa Bilveu talks with Chase Hughes, a top human behavior expert and all-around amazing guy!

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship, and suddenly you’re questioning everything? Maybe you’ve dated someone who’s giving you all the vibes but something just feels off? You’re not alone! Chase is here to break down those sneaky signs we keep missing—how to spot a narcissist or screen for a psychopath on the first date. Yeah, we’re going there!

Chase is sharing the super subtle clues to look out for and vital questions to ask that reveal so much about a person. Whether it’s body language cues or how people react under pressure, this episode is PACKED with insights which every woman needs to have in her toolkit.

We dig deep into:

How one powerful question on a date can reveal a person’s true intentions and character.
The subtle body language cues that differentiate an insecure individual from a narcissist.
Why some narcissists struggle to maintain local friendships and what that signifies.
The significance of a notorious study in understanding human compliance and authority.
Tactical ways to unveil a narcissist’s true self on the first date.

https://youtu.be/l_BNo76X7w4

CHAPTER MARKERS:
[00:00] Spotting the Psychopath’s Tricks
[08:22] Spotting Changes in Behavior
[23:17] Interrogation Tips for Daily Life
[34:36] Spotting FOG: Fear, Obligation, Guilt Tactics
[39:29] Identity Tricks and Mind Games
[44:53] Instincts Over Words
[52:21] Finding Realness in Dating Profiles
[01:04:06] Power and Manipulation by Wealthy Men

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Chase’s List on How to Spot a Narcissist on a First Date:
1. The “Humility Trap” Question
Ask: “Tell me about a time when you were completely wrong about something important. How did you handle it?”
A narcissist will struggle to admit fault and will likely spin a story where they were still the hero or victim.

2. The “Empathy Test” Story
Say: “One of my close friends has been going through a really hard time lately. It’s been tough seeing them struggle. What would you say to support them?”
A narcissist will deflect, minimize, or make it about themselves (“Yeah, life is tough. I went through worse.”).

3. The “Subtle Criticism” Strategy
Casually say something slightly critical but not insulting: “I’ve heard some people say you come across as really confident—almost intimidating. Do you think that’s true?”
Narcissists react poorly to even mild criticism. They may get defensive, make a joke at your expense, or suddenly lose interest.

4. The “Golden Rule” Setup
Ask: “What’s something you really appreciate in a person, and what’s a dealbreaker for you?”
Narcissists will often describe exactly what they fail to embody. Example: “I hate liars” (while they are constantly lying).

5. The “Future-Faker” Test
Say: “I love hearing about people’s long-term goals. Where do you see yourself in five years?”
Manipulators often “future-fake,” meaning they paint an ideal future to hook you emotionally (“We’d probably be traveling the world together”—on a first date).

6. The “Gratitude Gauge” Trick
Ask: “Who’s someone that’s really helped you in life, and how did they impact you?”
Narcissists rarely give credit to others. They will either struggle to answer or subtly take credit for their own success.

7. The “Energy Vampire” Check
Observe: How much time do they spend talking about themselves vs. asking about you?
Why it works: A narcissist will dominate the conversation, rarely pausing to ask anything meaningful about you. If you interrupt their monologue with “Wow, enough about me, tell me about you!”—they will likely bring the conversation back to themselves.

8. The “Triangulation Bait” Question
Ask: “Do you still keep in touch with your exes? What are they like?”
Manipulators love “triangulation”—using past or potential partners to make you feel competitive or insecure. If they mention how “crazy” all their exes were, take that as a red flag.

9. The “Entitlement Test” Experiment
Tactic: Watch how they treat the waitstaff, bartender, or valet at the venue.
A narcissist will often display entitlement, impatience, or rudeness to those they see as “beneath” them.

10. The “Boundary Push” Challenge
Say “No” to something small: “Oh, I don’t drink on first dates, but thanks!” or “I’d rather not share my number yet.”
A manipulator will subtly push back, try to guilt-trip, or make you feel awkward for having a boundary.