The Charisma Teacher: Psychology of Why People Don't Like You! People Are Attracted to These Traits! (Video)

In this 3 February 2025 video, host Steven Bartlett talks with Charlie Houpert, the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energise Everyone You Meet’.

https://youtu.be/zg4Ta7vXiIM

00:00 Intro
02:25 What Is It You Do?
04:39 How Much Can These Skills Change Someone’s Life?
06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn?
07:15 Your YouTube Channel
09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed
12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years?
15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You?
17:32 First Impressions
21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have
24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk
26:05 Flirt With the World
27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements
35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Speaking to a Big Crowd
37:02 Do We Underestimate the Many Ways We Communicate?
41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing?
43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction
47:40 How to Identify Real vs. Fake Interactions
50:19 Controlling the Narratives That Reach You
52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths
55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell?
1:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets
1:03:16 The “Elon Musk Salute”
1:06:13 Has the Media Made Apologising the Wrong Thing to Do?
1:08:31 Ads
1:08:32 Is Trump Charismatic?
1:13:29 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity
1:17:13 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything
1:19:50 I Proactively Share My Purpose
1:22:53 Be the First to Humanise the Interaction
1:25:21 The Different Types of Charismatic People
1:30:30 Obama’s Charisma
1:31:34 Why Charisma Is So Important
1:33:47 Ads
1:35:55 How Can I Use These Skills to Get a New Job or Promotion?
1:41:22 What Are Women Attracted To, in Your Opinion?
1:45:22 Are People Testing to See If You Have Standards?
1:49:35 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You
1:54:10 Speaking Like a Leader
1:55:00 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words
1:56:26 Does Body Language Matter When I’m Speaking?
1:57:49 The Fundamentals of Being Confident
1:59:33 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Improve Your Well-Being?
2:03:07 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel?
2:08:34 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy?