Why Do We Date People That Need Fixing? - Dr John Delony (Video)
In this 27 March 2025 Modern Wisdom video, host Chris Williamson talks with Dr. John Delony, a mental health expert, author, YouTuber and speaker.
What does it mean to be a good partner? We all want fulfilling relationships, but building one involves a careful balance of give and take. How do you show up as a supportive partner and not just for your significant other, but also for yourself?
Expect to learn why we date people we feel we need to fix, why it’s so hard to leave relationships even if we don’t have our needs met, advice for how to move on from breakups easier, how to gain control of your mind, how to deal with stressful situations better, how to be a better partner to your significant other and more.
https://youtu.be/yscguH7dLbY
0:00 Different Levels Of Compassion
08:47 Is It Possible To Have Friendships With Those We Work With?
14:34 Do People Love You For Who You Are Or What You Do?
23:39 Advice On How To Support Men
28:30 Why Do We Tend To Be Critical Of Others?
31:52 Why Do We Feel The Need To Fix Those We Date?
42:58 Our Constant Search To Have Our Needs Fulfilled
46:12 Do We Find Fulfilment In Our Job?
52:35 Why Do We Stay In Relationships That Aren’t Fulfilling?
58:30 Building Up Courage To Walk Away From A Relationship
1:09:54 How To Be More Intouch With Our Emotions
1:16:36 Learning How To Move On From A Relationship
1:22:26 Differentiating Grief And Depression
1:31:30 Where To Start With Processing Trauma
1:45:07 Chris’ Interest In Evolutionary Psychology
1:51:52 Dealing With The Weights We Carry
2:02:04 Where To Find John
