New Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like a Loser... Sorry, but You Do! (Video)
In this 10 April 2025 video, host Steven Bartlett talks about body language and what damage you may be doing to yourself. Can you make someone like you in seconds? Vanessa Van Edwards returns with the science-backed secrets of dating and likeability – tested in real-life dating scenarios for the very first time.
In this conversation, Vanessa and Steven discuss topics such as, the small mistake that makes people dislike you, the real reason you’re still single, the one habit that will keep you lonely forever, and the facial expression that increases your likeability by 80 percent.
https://youtu.be/ldizQkuWpDE
00:00 Intro
03:02 How Important Is It to Master the Skill of Communication?
03:33 Are We Set in Our Ways? Is Charisma Genetic?
04:18 Different Types of Awkwardness in People
04:53 How to Make Friends – The 3 Core Friendship Values
06:37 How Do You Figure Out Your Core Friendship Values?
07:34 How Many People Has Vanessa Taught These Skills? And What Do They Want?
08:18 First Impressions
10:24 Profile Pictures
12:11 Profile Picture Examples
14:10 Add Cues for a Better First Impression
15:28 How Sunglasses Block Connection
16:21 More Good Cues for First Impressions
16:54 How Do I Make a Really Bad First Impression?
18:30 What We Need to Signal to Express Warmth
21:27 Breaking the Script
23:19 Master Communicators and the “Chemical Cocktail”
25:33 Thread Theory
26:12 How to Stop Feeling Like You’re Making the Conversation About Yourself
26:33 British vs. American Expression Styles
26:52 Second Impressions
28:11 Online First Impressions
29:11 Be the Red Apple
30:17 How to Make an Impression on Zoom
32:08 The Story Toolbox
35:07 How Important Is Background on Zoom?
36:29 Where to Look on Zoom Calls
37:16 Date Experiments
39:45 Adding Depth to Conversations
40:45 Dream Killing in Conversation
41:47 Cheersing
43:09 Drivers and Passengers in Conversation
44:23 Micro Wins
45:05 Body Language That Indicates Attraction
49:35 Why Busyness Is Not a Mark of Success
51:16 The Jam Study – Too Many Choices
52:12 Prioritizing Self-Care Over Connection
53:08 Dating Checklists
54:23 Do We Get More Numb the More We Date?
55:32 Two Challenges If You’re in a Funk or Feeling Lonely
58:26 Steve Being a Control Freak
01:00:14 Networking Events
01:00:55 Ads
01:01:59 How Do Great Leaders Communicate?
01:02:50 Date 2 – Giving People Hooks in Conversation
01:07:02 How to Present Your Job to Someone
01:09:20 Using the Word “Because” as a Leader
01:11:01 How Do We Know If Someone Likes Us?
01:14:20 What If You’re Not a Funny Person?
01:16:09 Can You Learn to Be Funny?
01:16:57 Touch
01:18:10 Hacks for Being Funny
01:19:36 Channeling Other People
01:20:36 Microexpressions
01:21:37 Reading Fear in People’s Faces
01:23:24 Seeing Disgust in People’s Faces
01:25:09 How to Tell If Someone Is Angry Without Them Saying It
01:27:05 How to Tell When Someone Is Truly Happy
01:28:49 How to Tell If Someone Is Sad Even If They Don’t Say It
01:31:03 How to Tell If Someone Is Surprised
01:32:33 How to Tell If Someone Has Contempt Toward You
01:35:23 Can and Should We Change Our Personalities?
01:37:20 Steve’s Personality Traits
01:38:49 Making Your New Partner Take a Personality Test
01:41:20 Conscientious People
01:43:27 How It All Links With Neurodivergence
01:44:11 Extroversion
01:47:51 Agreeableness
01:49:57 Neuroticism
01:51:53 Ads
01:52:47 How to Spot a Narcissist
01:54:40 Longevity and Personality Traits
01:57:05 Do Extroverts Have Better Immunity?
01:58:04 Personality Traits of Lifelong Singles
01:59:57 Should We Know Other People’s Personality Types When We Meet Them?
02:01:38 Feeling Like the Vibe Is Off
02:03:31 What Are You Doing to Serve Others
